Monday, October 10, 2016

Affirmative Feedback vs Constructive Feedback

Written by Ranen Chan
Edited by Charis Chen
All photos by Coaches Debra and Michelle

Greetings!

Our chapter chair, Jern Yoong, open the meeting with a warm welcome before leading us into the icebreaker. We were divided into two groups. Each group had to pick a core value, then prepare and present a skit that illustrates that core value. The icebreaker was fun and forced us to think on our feet and be creative. It also helped familiarize us with some of the core values.


Once we had settled down, speaker Ian led the devotion. He shared with us what it truly means to be meek. Meekness, unlike what some people think, is not weakness. Rather, meekness is controlling your strength and not misusing it. It is power under control.


Coach Joseph then related to us about how the CEO of a successful IT company once told him that every time a young person joins his company, he makes them cry – and that they later thank him for it. He went on to say that they cry because whenever they do a project or assignment, he gives them honest feedback, which often includes the fact that they have not done well enough, and they cry because they are used to being praised and being told they are the best. Eventually, however, the employees thanked the CEO for his honest feedback and improved in their jobs. The moral of the story? Affirmative feedback is important, but constructive feedback is even more so. It is crucial to improving and becoming better.

Next, the YSG and YCC had their respective breakout sessions. Speakers Ian and Eunice were in charge of the YCCers. Ian said, “During the YCC Session, Eunice and I attempted to tire the energetic YCCers with 30 jumping jacks, which was obviously not enough to tire them out. Anyway, the bunch of lively kids quickly settled down eager to learn more public speaking skills. They were cooperative and were excited to answer questions. We taught them about Limited Preparation and reviewed eye contact and dramatic pause. They also learnt the importance of smiling and how it can be used in their speeches. It was fun to work with those lively YCCers!”


Meanwhile, the YSGers, led by speakers Jern Yoong and Charis, learnt the importance of impromptu speaking. They also gave us some tips for Limited Preparation speeches. They shared that one of the ways to organise our speeches is to:

  a) tell our audience what we’re going to tell them,

  b) tell them, and
  c) tell them what we told them. 

Got that? That means that first, we tell them what we’re going to be speaking about (just a brief outline or thesis statement), then we present the body of our speech, and finally, we summarize what we just told them. We could also use the 5 paragraph model- an introduction, 3 points with examples, and a conclusion.



After that, we practiced our impromptu speaking skills by asking the coaches questions, and having them ask us questions. Besides helping us learn to think on our feet, this activity also helped us get to know each other a bit more.


Before we went for teabreak, Coach Joseph had Coach Han Ming come up. He then used a technique which he called “Scanning Windows” to engage him in conversation. It was a list of different questions relating to aspects of a job that can be used to get to know someone better.



Then, it was time for teabreak!

When teabreak was over, several speakers practiced their speeches in the chapter. First was Ian, who shared his testimony of how God helped him to embrace his handicap.
Next were Jodie and Lee Xin, who confidently presented their “Hello, my Name Is…” speeches.
Lee Yuan then gave her humourous speech about the “Vinder Viper.” She spoke clearly, with good enunciation.
After that, Carlson shared his camp experience with us, while Lafayette talked about God’s love. Although they were young, we could sense their confidence and the enthusiasm in their speeches.

All the speakers did a good job, especially those who were new to ICC. Bravo!

After all the speeches, Jern Yoong closed the meeting and dismissed us. 

The coaches then had a meeting, while speakers Eunice and Charis led the speakers in their first practice of the chapter presentation.


And that brings us to the end of our last meeting of September! We hope that you enjoyed reading this blog post!


Snuffles, Mourning, and Robin Round Coaching! (September 4, 2016)

Written by Eunice Tan
Edited by Ranen Chan and Charis Chen

Time sure passes by like the wind! I have thoroughly and evidently forgotten how many meetings we've had so far! Not only does this mean we have been through so much together, but it reminds me of the many blessings God has showered upon our chapter these past 2 years (coming to 3!). And now, welcome to our joyous, most recent chapter meeting. This is our 4th meeting without our three, amazing friends Nathanael, Jemima, and Eliza (Che Che)! We miss them with all our hearts but rejoice with them at the wonderful experiences and opportunities they'll have.

Our chapter meeting started off with a fantastic icebreaker designed by Charis!

The purpose of this game was to learn cultural communication. Our goal was to transfer a message from person to person with just actions in our individual groups and see how drastically the message changed along the way. 


Photos by Coach Michelle

Trying to guess what the other person is acting.
(Wait a minute... what is Coach Joseph doing?? :D)

After our rather unpredictable acting, each person guessed what the original message was. Everyone was so confused! "What was all that waving and pointing supposed to mean?" When the first person shared the original message, the others had the shock of their lives, and all of us had a good laugh! With the message "Take this money, then go and buy tissue paper," in his mind, Coach Joseph had actually pretended to sneeze, showing he needed tissue paper. However, it was misunderstood! The end result was "Pay money and suddenly catch a cold!" Behold, the evolution of sentences...

By playing this game, we learned that most of the time, it is not as easy as we think to translate what is in our minds into the right words for another person to understand. Just like how it was so difficult to communicate the exact same message to the next person, we will find ourselves in hard situations in life where we have to communicate to a person of a different culture or background. It can be tough to comprehend a different person, even sometimes our own family, because each of us interpret things differently, do things differently, and basically, have a different mindset. How then, do we communicate with them? We discovered that we must always make an effort to understand the other person and their culture better by asking questions and making initiative in everyday situations to break the cultural barrier! Then and only then, will we be effective communicators for Christ, speaking to people of all cultures! 

Many thanks to Charis for heading the wonderful game! 

Following that energetic, and not to mention, "confusing" icebreaker, Jern Ling led us in an interactive and meaningful devotion.


Photo  by Ranen Chan

Photo by Coach Daniel


Through this devotion, we learned what exactly Jesus meant when He said "blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted" in Matthew 5:4.

We were divided into groups of at least 3 speakers and 2 coaches to discuss 2 questions:

1. What are some things that cause you to “mourn” or be very sad?
2. Why is mourning over sin and evil called a blessing in the Kingdom of God?

Photo by Ranen Chan
Photo by Ian Chan
                             
The first question was quite simple to answer. Many of us perceived things people mourn over as the loss of loved ones, lack of appreciation from others, and seeing others suffer. However, the second question got us thinking a bit more. It prompted us to think what the real meaning of "mourn" really is. Is it just a wishy-washy, sad feeling over something bad or a sincere and strong conviction we, Christians, should apprehend? We found out, in the devotion, that when we mourn over the sin of the world, it shows that we have a pure and righteous heart seeking after God, because God is holy and He hates evil. So, if we really follow God's example, we would hate evil too and be in despair over the deterioration of the world. Therefore, when Jesus said "blessed are those who mourn," He meant the righteous who sorrow over the sin in the earth,and blessed are those who truly follow God! What a great reminder for all of us to seek God and his holiness, not letting the world's lies distract us!

Thank you, Jern Ling for that insightful nugget from God's Word! It certainly helped clear up what is the real meaning of Matthew 5:4 and helped us determine to apply what Jesus told us!

After this was Chapter Sponsor Joseph's turn to share a message with us.

Photo by Ranen Chan
He shared the story of a friend who had just passed away and whose sudden death was a great shock to the people around her. Coach Joseph told us this caused him to think about how short and fragile our lives really are, and that we should not think that we have all the time in the world, but rather to use the life on Earth which God has given us to be ambassadors for Christ, and to gain wisdom. This reminded our sponsor of his life verse, Psalm 90:12, which says, "So teach us to number our days that we may get a heart of wisdom."
He shared that nowadays, young people do not seek wisdom because they tend to believe these 2 things to be true:

1. They will live forever.
2. They have all the resources and money in the world.

(These are NOT true!)

Through Coach Joseph's sharing, we recognized that our lives are not to be taken for granted. We may be young and capable now, but will that last forever? God provides us with homes, families, opportunities, and we are to be good stewards of what He has graciously given us! What more can we do for Him but live the short lives we have with wisdom for the Lord's glory! 

Next up was the YSG + YCC Robin Round Coaching session led by Ranen and Ian!

Photo by Charis Chen
In this session, everyone presented their current speeches three times, each time at a different location with two "judges" (coaches). And just like in a tournament, there were postings pasted on the walls informing us of our assigned coaches and location for each round. The "horrors" and memories from past tournaments started flooding our minds...

Well, practice, practice, practice, here we come!


Photos by Ranen Chan and Coach Joseph

Phew! You'll be surprised how much change can take place after practicing the same speech 3 times in a row! :D It certainly taught us the importance of practice for our speeches and feedback from the evaluators (which reminds us of Coach Joseph's favorite quote..."Feedback is the breakfast of champions!"). Thanks, Ranen and Ian, for that memorable and eye-opening activity (for a moment we had forgotten all about tournaments!).

And after a short and scrumptious teabreak, the YSGers had their usual speech coaching session while the YCCers had their YCC teaching time led by me and Jern Yoong.




Photos by Ian Chan

The YCCers reviewed what they learned in previous lessons such as eye contact, enunciation, the basics of public speaking, and many more important factors of giving an excellent speech! We had an awesome time playing games, discussing, and reviewing with them! :)

Last but not least, Charis and I held auditions with the speakers for our upcoming chapter presentation! Yay! All the speakers performed remarkably and we enjoyed auditioning each and every one of them! :D

Well, this closes our September 4th meeting! I can't wait to see what God has in store for us in future meetings!

************Additional pictures!***********

"Bonjour, human!"


Photos by Ian Chan

Ze magician...


Concentration.

Photos by Ranen Chan

Over and out. Till we meet again...

Saturday, October 8, 2016

Like Thx, I Guess

Written by Ranen Chan
Edited by Charis Chen


Welcome to the first meeting run by the newly-appointed student leaders!

Jern Yoong had us warm up with a tongue twister, “The mentor munches on Mentos.” He then quoted Mollie Marti: “Integrity is a powerful force, keeping you alive to others long after you’ve left their presence.” By keeping our integrity, we are able to leave a legacy when we are gone.

Photo by Ranen Chan

Next we played Confusing Taboo, an icebreaker led by Eunice. Everyone was given a piece of paper with a word on it. Underneath it was printed the category it belonged to (color, emotion, shape, etc.), and a list of taboo words. When the game started, we had to find a partner and took turns to guess each other’s word. We could only use words to give hints to the other person; no body language was allowed. Also, we could not use any words that were on the list of taboo words.

The game was a fun way to help us realize how important cultural communication is. It also taught us the importance of communicating effectively with others.

Our devotion for the day was led by Jern Yoong, who spoke about the end times and the blessed hope that we have as Christians. This hope gives us a reason to invest in, and mentor others, so that they too can share in that hope. He talked about the three different types of mentors: wise guides (those older than us), side guides (our peers), and surprise guides (those younger than us). These guides may provide input to, and impact our lives.

Photos by Ranen Chan
Coach Joseph related an experience he had at a classical music open recital where almost every performer greeted the audience in a very casual manner. Hardly anyone said “Good Afternoon” nor addressed the audience respectfully i.e. “ladies and gentlemen.” This did not come across as very professional. He stressed on the importance of introductions and the fact that first impressions, really do count.

Then the YCC and YSG split for their respective teaching sessions. Ian and Jern Ling led the YSG lesson time, which was about writing thank you notes as a sign of appreciation and respect; while Charis and I taught the YCC. The YCC-ers learnt about the importance of voice inflection and the role of the audience during a speech.

Here's a short account by Ian on what the YSG-ers did. :)

"I taught about the importance of saying “thank you” and writing thank you notes. Saying “thank you” is a way to respect sources of others helping you in life.
How a card should be written:
First of all it, should be specific. Second, it should be sincere, then, insert a title for the person you would like to thank; this is showing respect. 
Why do we write thank you notes? We recognize that we are dependent on others. We get to show someone respect. We acknowledge that someone else had a choice to be kind or helpful and did so. We affirm that their time and effort was meaningful to us.
Jern Ling did the Activity, which was making a card to keep in the Portfolio. This activity was to use what I taught and put it into practice, although there were already a few who made cards often. The Speakers who made those had good taste in art- I just realized. They should make more cards!"


Photos by Eliza Tan
And then, it was time for teabreak!

When teabreak was over, the YCC had their speech coaching led by Coach Daniel, while the YSG-ers gathered into their respective portfolio coaching groups to practice their speeches.

Photo by Eliza Tan
Photo by Ranen Chan
After the speech coaching, everyone congregated in the living room. Coach Joseph told of a time he was selected for a job over numerous other applicants, just because he wrote a thank you note to the interviewer. He also reminded us that in order to improve, we need to practice, practice, and… yes, you guessed it, practice!

Later, Coach Lalitha shared some information on a possible community platform with a large group of children from various homes in the month of December.

Finally, Jern Yoong had us repeat the quote by Mollie Marti (the one about integrity), and dismissed us.


The student leaders then met for a debriefing session.


After that it was time for the long-awaited movie! We watched the premiere screening of “The Secrets of Yesterday,” a movie that was written and produced by Eliza and Eunice Tan, and filmed by Eliza. It was originally titled “Mission Exterminator,” and was nearly cancelled, but was revived after a rewriting of the script.

We also saw some familiar faces...

Photo by Ranen Chan
Photo by Toh Jern Ling
When the movie ended, the speakers stayed back to spend some time with Nathanael and Eliza, as they were leaving for studies abroad.
Collage by Eliza Tan
We shall miss you Nate and Eliza...*sniff* *sniff*
What an eventful evening ...till the next blog posting...Bye